Saturday, August 10, 2013

Last post for awhile

I am finding it harder and harder to make the time to blog. I have plenty of subject matter a la the daily political outrages going on here on the local level. But I am kind of flummoxed about what I can do about anything. So much of what is going on in this state would drive me to drink if I wasn't a responsible adult and mom!

Either way, it's break time for me and my family. I would like to bring the blog back once I have the renewed spirit to write so hopefully my hiatus won't be too long.

Adios for a bit folks. Hope to be back here soon.

Saturday, June 29, 2013

Working Mama

Here's why working works out, at least for me. (Disclaimer: I am not bashing stay at home moms, it's just not my cup of tea) I have always thought that if you put all of your eggs in one basket, i.e. your husband's earnings, you may get the short end of the stick. That is potentially 1-10 years of your life out of the work force, not contributing to your 401k and losing skills. For me, for now, working works. I have a flexible schedule, I can work from home for a day here or there if I have to. My brain is constantly active. I do also realize that is not always the case for some people.

I had a role model, my mom worked. When I was a kid she worked double shifts as a laboratory supervisor and my dad was home on weekends. My dad cooked, endured dance parties with my girl friends (oh he loved it I know). While this arrangement may not work for everyone, it worked for them. I do so appreciate what my dad did and that today my hubs picks up the slack. That's where the working mom really gets a boost, when your husband helps with the day to day household tasks and you are not doing the laundry, dishes, cleaning and baby monitoring all alone.

I do get looks in various situations when I say I work when I have a 1 1/2 year old. When I meet people for the first time, they assume I stay home. But what is that assumption all about? Women make up half of the workforce in 2013. A little over half of the people surveyed in a recent Pew Center poll still think it is bad for women to work. I say who are these people? Are they all 70? I think my mom working set a good precedent for me. She was challenged at work and excelled. That is a good thing, especially in a country that identifies people so much by what they do. So here's to all you working moms out there, keep doing what you do, you are doing the right thing for your family. Haters gonna hate :)

Monday, June 10, 2013

Trade offs

In life there are a lot of trade offs. You make decisions as you go along, or they are made for you. You have regrets that become justifications.

I regret not having tried harder in school, I probably wouldn't have struggled for as long as I did had I put one hundred percent into my studies. If you don't go that route, it feels like you have to play catch up later in life. I look at my cousin who put every waking hour into studying and getting ahead academically. She is graduating from UCLA, she went straight through undergrad to med school and it will pay off for her at this point. She will have a job with flexible hours, probably some on call hours, but as a psychiatrist, you can start your own practice or go the hospital route. Either way she put the time in first and it is paying off now. 

I did not do that, as discussed here previously, I struggled to find my place in the working world for years. I am to the point where I am very comfortable now and have been for some time. But it takes its toll. I don't get to spend the time with my son that I would like.

My husband was recently promoted, another trade off. I am home at night alone now a lot of the time feeling what life is like as a single parent. I know I can't really complain as I have been fortunate until now to have my husband's help. I know plenty of people whose husbands are gone for weeks at a time. Does it have to be that way though? What is it about our society that determines that we must put so much of our time into work at the expense of our families. Ah well, here's to hoping it gets easier.

Thursday, May 30, 2013

Recent Updates

As usual I have been off the grid. I thought I'd be on here more since we have suspended the cable. Yes I did it again. Last time it was because of our nosy neighbor complaining to the HOA. This time it is a long overdue bet. B and I do our NCAA brackets faithfully each year. Last year I won and my bet was to suspend the cable for a little while.

(On a totally random note, I love Spotify and just realized why I like Florence and the Machine, she is sorta like Tori Amos - two of their songs just played right in a row.)

It has been all of a week without the cable, I am hoping for a good two months. I am realizing though one screen quickly gets replaced with another - iPhone, Netflix, computer etc. So the goal is to get out and about. Last weekend we went to the in-laws for Memorial Day. This weekend, I am off to Pittsburgh for a bachelorette and shower weekend. Two of my roommates are getting married this summer.  This may call for an embarrassing picture post, I might have to dig up some college and post college pics.

On another totally random note, it's graduation season. I found this awesome commencement speech from Josh Wheedon at Wesleyan the other day, see here.

Happy Thursday! Week's almost through.